Thursday, May 31, 2012

Blogger Confidential: Rude Comments

Blogger Confidential
Have you ever been faced with an issue while reading or blogging and thought: I wonder what other bloggers think about this?  No matter what genre or audience you blog for, we all face the same problems.  Are you a publisher or author wondering what goes on in a blogger's (and by extension a reader's) head?

Blogger confidential is a series of 9 questions asked to 10 bloggers about the nitty gritty details of blogging. Everything from what prompts a blogger to pick up a book, to what happens when a book doesn't live up to its hype.  This series was inspired by Wastepaper Prose's Author Insight series.

What's your policy regarding inappropriate comments on your blog? How do define "inappropriate"? (Rude, self-promotional, etc.)

Book Soulmates
"Seems like we've managed to steer clear of this also because we haven't had any rude comments, and honestly if we did get some, chances are we would just delete it. We're both very opinionated but we don't feel that our blog is the appropriate place for stupid or unnecessary arguments." Vanessa and Isalys from Book Soulmates

"I don't allow them, same goes for my forum. My sites are set up to be family friendly. I don't have the time to deal with nor do I tolerate rude comments, put downs or comments that I couldn't read if my children were sitting on my lap while I'm reading through my blogs and forum. I also don't allow for bashing. There's a way to get a point of cross without coming out and bashing someone or their book." Katie from Mundie Moms

"Well, if they attack me personally, I delete and forget about it. If they simply state a different opinion than mine, I accept and maybe respond. Self-promotion I've never minded, but lately it's getting ridiculous. So I might have to do something about that... I'd love to know what others do!" Sabrina at YA Bliss



The Reading Fever
"Personally, I am okay with people having their say on my blog. The only comments I delete are the ones that sound like spam. Other than that, I want to hear people’s opinions, even if they are rude. I leave rude comments alone, and respond only if I feel the need to defend myself. I screencap it all, though, so be prepared for your words to haunt you even if you delete your own comment. :)" Penelope from The Reading Fever

Bites
"There's very little that I'd deem inappropriate in terms of insulting me but if personal attacks get involved that's when I step in. As for self-promoting comments I don't think anything of them because they get deleted. I do have a section on my policy that generally addresses comments." Donna from Bites

Sash and Em a Tale of Two Bookies
"We haven't have any inappropriate comments on our blog. But we've definitely seen them. Being rude or calling a reviewer a name isn't very nice and we don't understand why some people would do that!" Sash and Em from Sash and Em a Tale of Two Bookies


Parajunkee
"As far as comments, self-promotional I usually delete, if you want advertising, buy it. Rude, like small digs, or sharp disagreements, I'll usually respond and leave them there. Unless they get graphic or really nasty, then I'll delete them. Responding wouldn't work most likely." Rachel from Parajunkee

"I don't have a written policy regarding comments on my blog, but since it is MY blog and is, in many ways, a reflection of myself, I tend to think that I have the right to delete something if I find it particularly offensive or inappropriate. However, I will also say that I believe everyone has a right to his or her opinion, so I welcome healthy debates, as long as people keep it relatively respectful. Lucky for me, the people who comment on my blog have for the most part been extremely sweet and courteous. To this day, I have never had to delete a single comment that wasn't spam (ex: unsolicited advertisements that have nothing to do with the topic being discussed)." Natalie from Mindful Musings

Chachic's Book Nook
"I’m lucky – I don’t think I’ve gotten rude comments on my blog. I have gotten a couple of self-promotional comments but I usually just ignore those. If I get rude comments (e.g. contains swear words or angry comments that don’t have a point), I’ll probably delete those." Chachic from Chachic's Book Nook

Forever Young Adult
"For the most part, our readers are intelligent, articulate and respectful. Occasionally, we get comments from ignorant people, but before we even get a chance to respond, our readers have addressed it. FYA is a pretty self-governing place, and there's only been a few times when we've had to remove a comment for being hateful." Sarah from Forever Young Adult

11 comments:

  1. I delete blatant self promotion, unless I feel that the link in question is presented as useful and interesting, instead of spammy.

    I've not had any outright rude comments but I would delete them if I did. I don't see any point in responding and fueling up drama. I do like to hear people's opinions, as long as they are not written in a crude and insulting manner.

    I once had a guy I knew write a long comment on one of my posts, disagreeing with pretty much everything I said. He'd only written his first name, so I asked him in chat if it was him. He asked if that was okay and I said I was ecstatic he had not only bothered to read my blog post but had taken enough of an interest to comment so thoroughly and had raised some excellent points.

    I don't want people to be afraid to comment on my blog because they feel they would be shunned if they didn't agree with everything I said. Plenty of them are scared enough to do so as it is!

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  2. I've never gotten a rude comment, but I agree with the majority. I'd leave it unless it's spam. It is my blog, and I really want an open environment. If they attacked me personally I'd probably email them, but nothing of the sort has ever happened.

    I don't delete self-promotion (except for spam). I just ignore it. To be honest, all I really do with comments is reply to them.

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  3. Thanks for this, Emily! It's awesome that yet again we're all pretty much on the same page. Great minds thing alike!

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  4. I haven't received rude comments yet and I hope I won't get them soon.

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  5. I'm new to the blog world, and this article piqued my interest. What constitutes self-promotion? If someone leaves a link to their own blog, or reviewed the same book that the OP reviewed, is it self promotion to leave that link at the end of a pertinent comment? Is that tacky, but tolerable? Or is that just fine?

    For instance, like this:

    http://englishmajorversustheworld.blogspot.com/

    (And I'm not trying to be an a** by posting the link, just trying to make it concrete, since I'm trying to learn the ropes of courteous commenting)

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    1. Neal, opinions might vary, but I personally think it's perfectly fine to leave a link to your blog if you left a relevant comment. From what I've seen, most bloggers see that as fitting with the unwritten code of blogger etiquette!

      Also, welcome to the blogosphere! I hope you'll find the community as friendly and inspiring as I have! Good luck with everything!

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    2. Thanks for the tip! So what constitutes "self-promotional?"

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  6. Thanks for this post! As a younger blogger (time blogging not age) it's good to get opinions for other more experienced bloggers. :)

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  7. This is a great post. Luckily I haven't had any nasty comments and I have no idea what I'd do. I hope I never find out :)

    Ivana @ WTSL

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  8. I haven't received rude comments, and I'm hoping I can keep it that way for a while. There have been some problems of self promotion, but I usually just delete those.

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  9. He asked if that was okay and I said I was ecstatic he had not only bothered click here to read my blog post but had taken enough of an interest to comment so thoroughly and had raised some excellent points.

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